The past is a story that was begun in our childhood years. It is etched in the memory from a child’s perspective. In order to gain the power that the past holds for your present and future, you need to reevaluate bad or troubling memories–from an adult perspective. You might have to go back several times. The great news is that you will be enlightened, inspired, and empowered. Avoid holding on to unhappy memories; they will surely form an unhappy present and future. The adult version of the story will help you to see yourself and your family in a new light. The best way to release yourself from the past is to review your story. You will laugh, you might cry, but you will feel a renewed sense of admiration for the people who raised you and protected you in the best way they knew. Move forward with the positive aspects, which are the memories that will help you to grow. These memories will also give you a better perspective for enhancing your parenting skills. A child’s mind could never have found logic in why parents protected and cared for us the way they did. When I became a parent, it all made sense–well, most of it.
My heart goes out to those who have overcome, and built stable lives in spite of troubling events that may have occurred in their past.
(I published this blog post in August of 2009. I inserted it in a piece I wrote later titled Parenting for a Change)
Note: I recently read a article in a UnitedHeath publication which stated that it is important to build from past experiences. The article pointed out that good or challenging experiences can be used to build a better future for ourselves, as well as for those we interact with.
Parenting for a Change received honorable mention in a Readers Digest writing contest.
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